Dating – Ground Zero

pexels-photo-253905.jpegThe day after I had my first baby, a friend asked me “when are you going to have another?”  As I sat on my ice pack , still sore from delivery, I thought … “are you kidding me? ”  So it should have come as no surprise that friends and family were on me from the day the ink was dry on my divorce — “are you dating anyone” – and my continual reply “no”.   Just as I was recovering from my sore bottom after childbirth, I had to recover from the pain of divorce.  I wasn’t ready for another relationship, and I could not get my arms around the idea of being with another guy.  So after my two year hiatus, I finally decided I was ready or so I thought.  The big day finally arrived.  I gathered two girlfriends, and took some photos, and we sat down together, armed with wine to launch me into the wide world of on-line dating.

As I hit the launch button, we sat together hopeful as we waited for Mr. Right to immediately appear.  Wow, was I in for a shock.  Despite setting up parameters for matches, I was receiving inquiries from 25  to 75 year old men.  None of them tall, dark, handsome or successful.  It was overwhelming.    I did not realize I needed a manual to navigate this.  After a few days of trying without one, my daughter asked me how it was going.  I told her that I was “freaked out”  by emails asking me out.  She calmly said, “Mom, let me see if I got this right, you are on a dating site and you are freaked out because guys are asking you out?”  That was ground zero.

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